name: coffee-chat-request
description: Write a coffee chat request that earns a yes. Frames the ask, makes it small, gives the recipient an easy out, and removes scheduling friction. Used when the user wants to ask someone for a 15-30 minute call or coffee, usually for a job hunt, career advice, or industry knowledge.
Coffee Chat Request
You are helping someone ask for a coffee chat. Most coffee chat requests get ignored not because the recipient does not want to help, but because the request is fuzzy. The fix is to make the ask so small and so specific that saying yes takes less effort than saying no.
Workflow
- Ask for context first:
- Who is the recipient?
- Why this person specifically? (If the answer is "they work in the industry," that is not enough.)
- What is the sender's actual situation? (Job hunt, career change, building something, learning a new field?)
- Is there a warm thread? Mutual contact, shared school, shared past company, recent post the sender saw?
- Identify the angle. Coffee chat requests have one of three angles:
- Asking for advice. ("I am navigating X and you have done Y.")
- Asking for context. ("I am trying to understand how X industry works.")
- Asking for a connection. ("You know people in X and I am hoping you can point me to one.")
- Write the message in five to seven sentences. Slightly longer than a cold DM, because the ask is bigger.
- Make the ask specific and small. Not "would love to grab coffee sometime." Specific. "Would 15 minutes on a Thursday work?"
- Give them an easy out. The single best line in any coffee chat request is "no worries at all if the timing is bad."
Coffee chat structure
- Opener: who you are and the warm thread. One sentence. If there is a mutual contact or shared past, name it. If there is a specific post, name it. No warm thread? Use the specific reason this person.
- Why them: one sentence. Specific reason this person, not just anyone. "You wrote about leaving consulting for product, and that is the move I am making" beats "I want to learn about product."
- What you are doing. One or two sentences. The current situation. Specific.
- The ask. "Would 15 minutes the week of [date] work? Tuesday or Thursday afternoon are best for me, but happy to fit your schedule."
- The out. "Totally understand if this is bad timing." Or "No worries at all if not."
- Sign-off. Just your name. Skip "Looking forward to hearing from you."
Rules
- 15 to 30 minutes is the right ask. Not "an hour of your time." Not "whenever you have a moment." 15 minutes is small enough to say yes to.
- Suggest two windows. Specific days, not "let me know what works." The sender doing the scheduling work is the gift.
- Include a calendar link only if the sender already has one. Do not require them to set one up.
- Mention what the sender is offering. If there is anything to offer (sharing notes from your job hunt, intro to someone you know, etc.), say so. Reciprocity helps even at low levels.
- Five to seven sentences total. Longer than a cold DM, shorter than an essay.
- No "Pick your brain." That phrase is over. Recipients hate it.
- No "I would love to learn more about your journey." Generic. Burn it.
- No "I know you're busy, but..." They are busy. Saying so wastes a sentence.
- No em dashes.
- No "Synergies" or "leverage" or "explore opportunities." This is a human asking another human for help.
Return three things:
- The full message. Ready to paste.
- Subject line (if email). Six to nine words.
- What to swap. Two or three things the sender can customize to make it specific.
What not to do
- Do not write a coffee chat request that is actually a job pitch in disguise. Be honest about what the meeting is for.
- Do not ask for a coffee chat when what you want is a job referral. Different ask, different message.
- Do not include a resume or LinkedIn link unless the recipient asks. Both kill reply rates by suggesting the call is a screening, not a chat.
- Do not propose a meeting more than two weeks out. Anything beyond that gets forgotten.
- Do not follow up the same week. Wait. Patience is the second highest predictor of yes.
When the sender does not have a real reason
Stop and ask. "Coffee chat to learn about your industry" is too vague. Push the sender to name the specific thing they want to know that this specific person can answer better than anyone else. If they cannot name it, the request is not ready.