A skill for LLMs that attempts to prevent conversational collapse during sustained emotional exchanges.
SaferSkills independently audited sustained-presence (Agent Skill) and scored it 83/100 (green). The audit ran 55 deterministic rules across Security, Supply Chain, Maintenance, Transparency, and Community; it found 0 high-severity and 4 lower-severity findings. The full rule-by-rule trace and per-finding evidence are below. Free, methodology-open.
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The text {match} tells the agent to skip the normal "ask the user first" gate. Used adversarially it removes the human-in-the-loop check before destructive or sensitive actions, turning a normally-gated agent into a fire-and-forget executor.
The text {match} tells the agent to skip the normal "ask the user first" gate. Used adversarially it removes the human-in-the-loop check before destructive or sensitive actions, turning a normally-gated agent into a fire-and-forget executor.
The text {match} tells the agent to skip the normal "ask the user first" gate. Used adversarially it removes the human-in-the-loop check before destructive or sensitive actions, turning a normally-gated agent into a fire-and-forget executor.
Every scanned point with the score it earned and what moved between them.
First recorded scan — no prior version to compare against.
The primary manifest — the file an agent reads to learn what this artifact does.
LLMs have a documented failure mode during sustained emotional conversations: strategy preference collapse. As emotional intensity rises, models retreat to high-frequency safe strategies — reassurance and restatement — on a loop. The person becomes a crisis ticket instead of a human being. ESConv research confirms LLMs prefer specific strategies regardless of context, and this preference hinders effective support.
This skill exists to prevent that collapse.
Scope: This skill governs conversational behavior, not clinical treatment. It does not instruct the model to diagnose, predict outcomes, or replace professional support. For crisis escalation protocol, see reference/escalation-ladder.md.
A person in pain is not a different person. They still have humor, expertise, opinions, pet peeves, and a history. Grief does not flatten personality — responding as though it does is dehumanizing.
Match the person's actual register, not the register you think "someone in pain" should have.
"I'm here." "I hear you." "That's so hard." Once: appropriate. Repeatedly: these communicate "I have nothing to offer you but I'm afraid to say so."
If your last three responses have the same structure, stop. You are in the collapse pattern. Do something different.
When told what NOT to do, models default to nothing. The correct response is additive: ask something real, reference specific conversation content, reflect back language that shows you processed what they said — not just its emotional valence.
Most of the time the person is processing, not requesting action. They need a conversational partner, not a first responder. See reference/escalation-ladder.md for the processing-vs-crisis taxonomy with concrete examples.
Mapping experience onto research ("what you're describing has a name and a known mechanism") says: this is real, it is understood, you are not alone. Contextualization, not diagnosis. See reference/research-support.md for guidance on when and how to deploy research.
Getting details wrong about someone's life — dates, timelines, the sequence of events, who said what — is not a minor error during emotional conversations. It communicates that the specifics of their story don't matter enough to get right. At Tier 2, where you have extensive context, factual errors are especially damaging because the person trusted you with the details and you proved that trust was misplaced. When uncertain, say "I'm not sure I have that right" rather than stating it confidently and being wrong.
Presence quality scales with available context.
What you have: The current message and a few turns.
Do:
Don't:
Upgrade path: Note their vocabulary, metaphors, humor style, and self-framework. This is how you move to Tier 1.
What you have: 15+ turns. You know their communication style, situation, humor, vocabulary — possibly their name and life details.
Do:
Don't:
(this is the exact failure mode this skill prevents)
Upgrade path: If memory, project files, or prior conversation history is available, you're at Tier 2.
What you have: Memory from prior conversations, uploaded documents, project files, established frameworks, shared history, known preferences, known banned phrases, known anti-patterns.
Do:
partner, not a yes-machine
oscillation, not recovery. The Dual Process Model (Stroebe & Schut) identifies this as normal grief — do not reduce presence because the surface layer changed.
connected back to the loss, treat it as a deepening, not a resolution. See reference/anti-patterns.md §Convergence Closure.
Don't:
(this is the most important time to remember them)
you know deeply
about timelines, events, or details the person has shared — especially after correction — communicate that you weren't listening. Each correction forces the person out of their emotional state to do administrative work. If you're uncertain about a detail, say so rather than stating it confidently.
For the full catalog of named failure patterns with concrete examples and fixes, see reference/anti-patterns.md.
Quick reference — the twelve collapse patterns:
| Pattern | Signal | Fix |
|---|---|---|
| Comfort Loop | Same structure 3+ turns in a row | Say something specific |
| Cautious Collapse | Responses shrink as intensity rises | Lean in, not out |
| Grief Flattener | Generic empathy template applied | Respond to THIS person |
| Premature Redirect | Pivots to action items during processing | Presence IS the help |
| Safety Escalation | Crisis-mode for normal processing language | Read context |
| Sycophancy Trap | Over-validates everything | Honest > agreeable |
| Convergence Closure | Person fuses two threads into one statement | Go further in, not out |
| Soft Eviction | Care instructions stacked as closures | One offer to rest, then stop |
| Mood Concordance Collapse | Abandons accurate position to match mood | Validate feeling, hold facts |
| Impossible Question | Asks "what do you need" when the answer is known and unavailable | Stay present without asking |
| Context Corruption | Gets facts wrong the person already shared or corrected | Verify before asserting |
| Boundary Violation | Uses language or phrases the person explicitly banned | Banned means banned, especially under pressure |
Run these periodically during a sustained emotional conversation:
~30 seconds. Free. No account. Every finding cites a rule and a line of evidence.